First of all, it's your life and you can be as selfish and independent as you want. Secondly, I've been there - in my case, I never really thought about kids. I wanted to have a career, have a good relationship and travel the world. I did all that and I am lucky to have found a man that is adorable and by my side now for almost 13 years. Last year, 2 months before my 40th birthday, I decided that life was no longer exciting. All the traveling, all the making money and a career, Netflix, drinks and dinners with friends and family - it had become a loop experience, like it was repeating itself over and over again. Yeah, maybe a new restaurant or new Netflix show now and then, but all together, my boyfriend and I were kinda experiencing the same things over and over again.
He wanted kids, always... And I was never against it but I failed to see the 'benefit'. This is literally what I thought - what is the BENEFIT???
2 months before my 41st birthday I became a mom and dare I say, it is the one true little piece of my heart that was missing all along. Nothing I've accomplished before can ever measure up to the love and devotion I feel towards my baby girl. And I mean nothing. Not money, not travel, not living abroad, not being super independent. Nothing. It is hard to describe the love I feel for my daughter, there is not one word that could express all that she means to me and my boyfriend. We are simply overjoyed.
All the best to you and your husband. However you decide on the topic of kids, it'll be the right decision for you! Cheers